Modern women are lacking in self-confidence

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I read on the News: Modern women are less self-confidence and happy than their own mothers when they were their age. Why? A new study tried to answer this question. A new study which, among other things, discovered that women are assailed by negative thoughts and emotions as much as nine times a day.

This doesn’t surprise me at all! Magazines, posters, packing material...... Everywhere are pictures of beautiful, joyous, skinny, young women who don't have wrinkles. Articles about women who can handle absolutely everything, all at once and perfectly every time. This probably really hurts some of us, although it would be enough for us to just become aware that this simply isn’t physically possible and that it's not even necessary! Often the problem is just in that we compare ourselves with these people, who are only actually telling us about the best parts of their lives. And this can even be mothers, who say that they handled everything and now we have to, too (my mother is not like this!). It’s just that, those were different times.... It is normal and human of us to often speak only of our successes, but it is necessary to realize this and to take this information only from others only as inspiration, not as a measuring stick, with which to compare ourselves.

I recall one friend of mine who was amazingly smart and talented. She is a specialist in a field, which people recognize as both a person and as a professional. Despite of this, she almost worried herself to death after always listening to her colleague who spoke about how she was learning three languages, had won a gold tournament, handles two jobs, a lover and seems to never need to sleep. And so, my friend also started to learn another language and also started going to courses to learn golf, all on top of everything she already did. Because she wasn’t talented at these things, they definitively destroyed her physiologically. She felt like she was absolutely incapable.

Even though, all she would need to do is work on the things that she is good at and then she could be satisfied and continuously successful.

We shouldn’t take everything that we hear so seriously. Who believes that someone is actually so perfect at everything? Only that person who does not appreciate them self and who mainly doesn't see through to the truth, that maybe that colleague is going through something difficult and is actually only speaking about their own wishes, rather than what is actually true. Or that maybe that colleague is just having fun and provoking you. I am not saying that capable, talented people who can handle a lot of things at once don’t exist. There are many of them. But, these kinds of people usually don’t speak about themselves that much....

And so, it is better and more important to do the things that make us happy and that we are good at. After, we will be more satisfied with ourselves and we will have greater self-confidence. Let us mainly focus on keeping a realistic perspective on our surroundings and let’s be appreciative of what we have and who we are. You can lose anything in an instant…. I know what I am talking. My partner works as a physician at intensive care......

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