There is a very nice movie that is being shown in theaters. As many people as possible should see it. It is enlightening for many reasons.
It is about an older, married couple, whose children are already adults. It is about how the wife runs her husband's life, telling him what is good for him, what he should do and how he should live his life. He isn’t happy, but he submits himself to the will of his wife, in hopes of not bothering or disappointing her. As the situation gets worse and the husband can no longer handle it, he pretends to get sick and even ends up in the hospital. He leaves his wife in the end.
Everyone in the theater was rooting for the husband when he finally started to free himself and do the things that he wanted. We were angry with the wife, because of the way she treated her husband like he was a child, lacking in understanding. She always reproached her husband, that she had sacrificed her entire life for him and that she always took care of him. She never had time for herself.
In the end, I started gradually getting angry with the husband for never actually saying anything to his wife. Supposedly, he would never hurt her. But wasn’t it actually because he didn’t want to deal with anything? Don’t some men do this often? They would rather leave than have to deal with something....
A question came to me – wouldn’t both of them live a much better life if they, right from the start, said what they wanted to get out of life and what they were expecting from the other person? For them to speak openly about their feelings, and not be afraid that they might disappoint their partner? It's just that most disappointment and feelings of a wasted life can come when people grow older and say, that actually none of this was worth the sacrifices made by their partner. That they mutually believed, that something was the right for their partner, when in reality, it was something different. Maybe, if both had spent more time on themselves and on their own interests, they would both be happier.
I believe that this same rule applies not only in life as partners…….
One man said to his friends: “I am not going to drink; my wife says that I am not thirsty...”
And his friend said: “I’ll just let that pass through your wife’s head then...”
And the movie showed something else which proves to be true. That the model of women’s behavior towards men has been passed down from one generation to another. Even teenage girls don't take any men serious and behave contemptuously to their own fathers.
And it is the same the other way around. Sons often behave the same way towards their wives as they witnessed their fathers behave toward their wives...
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